Okay, with the divorce rate in Ghana on the increase (the reasons for this belong in another article…), its understandable that single Ghanaian men wonder the best way to find a woman that’s right for you. After asking a few men in (what they call ‘happy relationships), here’s what we got:

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If you spend all your time paying attention to what feels right in the moment, you’re going to be chasing your tail (while you’re chasing tail) more often than not. You should know what sounds good to you on paper as well as what feels right to you in person, so you choose “wisely” and not “poorly”, as a bad guy once did in a little movie called Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade.

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Was the first date okay, but not great? That doesn’t necessarily mean it’s downhill from there. You can definitely find it within yourself to give her another chance. Maybe she was nervous last time, but this time you’ll learn something about her that makes you like or respect her more. Unless you have a non-stop schedule and no time for second tries, it’s better to give her a second chance if you felt there was any potential.

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Stop looking for the stereotypical ‘good girl’ because frankly, she doesn’t exist.

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Manners. Manners. Manners. Can’t say it enough. How polite and considerate a woman is very telling and is a very good indicator for the amount of grief you may or may not experience later on in the relationship.

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When doing research for this article, there a number of suggestions for online dating. Well, yes, it is a viable option, but I’m not quite sure it works as much as the adverts for those online dating sites would have us believe. It’s more advisable to work on yourself. Gandhi said you need to BE the change you wish to see in the world — and that applies to all aspects of life (i.e. professional, personal, family, etc). If you want a woman that’s patient, loving and supportive; you need to be patient, loving and supportive with her. It really is simple.

What are your tips for the gentlemen out there?